People often perceive divorce lawyers as profiting from others' heartbreak, but the reality is that they are there to help navigate a painful process that exists because of the trauma of divorce. Just like oncologists deal with cancer, divorce lawyers deal with the fallout of broken relationships.

The way a marriage ends can significantly impact how individuals remember the relationship, and divorce, especially the ugly kind, is trauma for everyone involved, including the children. It's crucial to manage the end of a relationship thoughtfully to preserve positive memories, as people often come into divorce proceedings wanting to be fair and quick, yet their definitions of fairness can be completely different, leading to conflict.

It's important to understand your rights in the absence of a contract. Most people don't realize the legal implications of marriage until it's too late, which can lead to complications during a divorce.

Understanding the reasons behind divorce can help couples prepare better for marriage. It's essential to have honest discussions about expectations and values.

Many people experience divorce in a way that is not dramatic or traumatic, but those stories are often less interesting and therefore less shared. The traumatic divorces become part of people's identities, affecting their trust and how they view the world.

In the absence of a prenup, legal defaults govern a marriage, which can lead to unexpected outcomes during a divorce. It's essential to have a clear understanding of these defaults before getting married.

The role of lawyers is evolving back to being advisers, focusing on strategic work rather than just low-end tasks that can be automated.

The process of creating a prenup often leads to a positive and friendly transaction, unlike the negative feelings that can accompany divorce.

If your lawyer can't provide a clear estimate for their services, it likely means they lack experience, which is a bad sign.