The person who truly wants to change understands that they must change themselves rather than waiting for external circumstances to change.

Often, it takes a crisis or trauma for people to reach a point where they are motivated to change, as they seek to escape feelings of discomfort. When you can see yourself through someone else's eyes, that's the moment you begin to change, as you start to notice how you've been thinking, acting, and feeling for years.

Real change comes from desire and understanding, not from forcing yourself to change.

People often struggle to change because they feel they lack agency; recognizing your ability to choose your responses is key to personal growth.

In therapy, insight alone isn't enough; real change requires taking action in the world.

Defining yourself by past traumas or negative experiences can trap you in a cycle of unhappiness; it's better to remain flexible and adapt to change.

To change, you need to become conscious of your unconscious thoughts, behaviors, and emotions, and not let them slip by unnoticed.

To influence your partner positively, focus on changing your own behavior instead of trying to change them directly.

When it's hardest to change, that's when it matters the most; you must let go of the stories tied to your emotions to heal.